In the loss of a loved one, we are reminded in many ways of their lives. People will say it stops hurting after time, but I don't think it stops hurting. I think we learn to deal with it and we learn to remember the great moments of someone's life.
Then we have holidays that remind of us a certain person and it brings thoughts all over again. I will always remember the Christmas my brother (Ronnie) went to Heaven at age 37. My husband and I were opening gifts with out kids when we got the call from the hospital staff. We needed to hurry to the hospital because it was his last day alive. He died on Christmas Day and we never got to open his presents or the presents we bought him.
Every Christmas morning, I think of him and my mother. My mother (Alice) also had a fall Christmas morning many years later. We would spend Christmas Morning through the night, at the hospital with her. She would need a surgery on her hip, stay in the hospital and go to a care home (81). Life would totally change for her being independent to needing something to help her daily. She would go to Heaven from inside the care home.
WHEN DOES IT STOP ~ hurting?
As I write this, tears flow but I feel that someone needs to know there is hope in a new day. We do have loved ones that leave earth and we often wonder why. I wondered why my dad left earth at 53 and I was 18 years old with a sudden heart attack. We must let go of the why of things and stop the wonder if we can. I saw my mom fall into a depression after my dad went to Heaven. She became angry at God and couldn't move forward. It never stopped hurting for my mom and she missed out on so much of life. She stopped living and I'm here today to remind you or someone you love, that you can't stop living. It is a step of faith to move forward.
Romans 1:17 English Standard Version (ESV)
17 For in it the righteousness of God is revealed from faith for faith, as it is written, “The righteous shall live by faith.”
BUT WHEN DOES IT STOP ~ hurting?
God, I asking today that you comfort those that mourn today. Those would just can't seem to find the strength to take another step. Life can become so overwhelming and yet you can bring some peace as time goes by. Help us each not to question your plan for our lives, but to grow from situations that bring us to our knees. A prayer of faith and leaning to your will. Grief is a hard thing to understand in watching someone else goes through it and also ourselves. I'm asking today that peace comes right now and your power moves mountains of doubt. Help my friends to press forward this day. Only you God, can mend a broken heart. So many things I've seen and so many times of crying out to you God for help. I believe that help is on the way. Put people in the path of those who read this to encourage, to lift up and to see hope in this new day! Help our hearts to lean to you this very day. AMEN
Proverbs 3:5-6 New International Version (NIV)
5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
6 in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.
My prayers continue for the readers of my blog, your family and friends!
I care and please know that. You are important and your decisions affect not only you, but others. Time has pressed forward since I was 18 years old and I seen a lot of things. If I could encourage you or someone you know, that after a death please do not stop living in the fullness of God. I know people who needed my story and they pressed forward. No matter what, take care of you!