My mom would lay on the couch at night and scream to die. She was in her early 40's and hated life. It became too much for me and I ended up in emergency with nerves. The doctor told my aunt that she needed to created a new normal for me. I was depressed and felt it was my job to make her life better. I started college and work park time. I would give all my money to my mom for the house things we needed. I thought if I took her back to her church, maybe she would not scream to die. That is where I met Terry and it took a year before I realized he was good for me. He was best friends with Dennis and he was my good friend too. So Dennis would bring him over and he carried a Bible. What 18 year old kid carries a bible in 1973? Over time, I understood Terry more and the love he had for God. His example seemed to shine of what Jesus was like.
Terry taught me about faith and scriptures of hope. He said he prayed that God would speak to me and that I would love him one day. Guess what? That one day came and a love began. We were kids at 19 and both came from a hard place of life. Growing up wasn't the greatest for either of us and both of us made money for our own school clothes. Mine would be in yard sales and his was in mowing lawns. We had so much in common and yet so different. We learned that we could balance each other out and do this thing called Marriage. We began to save for wedding and that happen on August 13, 1977.
Ephesians 5:25: “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her." Genesis 2:24: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."
Fast forward our lives to now:
There is something about putting God first in your life. Not everything will turn out the way you think. You will learn to trust the Lord through things that do not make sense. Praise God in all seasons of life and learn to agree to disagree at times. We didn't know how to be parents but to become everything we wish we had in parents. We made mistakes and we grew from them. Taking the positive things and adding more positive to life. Praying over our kids at night and praying as they grew up to have happiness in life.
Proverbs 22:6 English Standard Version (ESV)Train up a child in the way he should go;
even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Psalm 27:13-14 New International Version (NIV)
13 I remain confident of this:
I will see the goodness of the Lord
in the land of the living.
14 Wait for the Lord;
be strong and take heart
and wait for the Lord.
WAITING ON THE LORD ~
If you are not married yet, do not get out of God's will. Pray and seek for the right mate. Be on the same page spiritually. I love that Terry will pray with me at night or in the midst of a hard time. I love that his faith is strong and he goes to prayer when I would stress out. Ask God for his best for your life in all areas. I have moments of frustration with him and he does with me too. After all, we are human and it's hard to become one. We are two people doing our best and holding on through it all together. A real friendship made by God and I will never doubt that. I hope you will wait for the right person too!
I find this to be true if you are married, go back to the beginning when you first fell in love. There were times when I thought Terry and I would not make it over the years. The uglies of life consumed us and tore us apart, but God had a plan ~
Mark 10:9 New International Version (NIV)
Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Marriage can be very hard work and we must remember we fight the flesh, plus the enemy of our soul. The devil wants to divide you and God wants to make your marriage stronger. I'm tell you today, if you are single, seek the Lord with all you heart and press toward him to find the right mate. I know many people waiting on God and the wait is worth it, but the wait can be hard. Down the road of life, we find each decision to be so valuable in life.
I also prayed that God would put real friendships in our lives. He has connected us to amazing friends and I so value their prayers plus communication. A big part of life is communication with others and friendships given by God. Life is full of a bunch of people and I love it. God has blessed us with two amazing kid/adults Tracy and Chad which leads us to Sean, Ashley, Ashley and Chris. We have amazing grandchildren and so thankful for time with each. Only counting blessings today and seeing how far God has brought our lives. I also want to give thanks to Darlene who we call sister. We do ministry/family together and I thank God for that. Plus all our extended family and friends. Thank you for loving us as we are.
My prayers continue for you, your family and friends. I am happy today that Terry and I made it through the hardest storms of life and continue to stand strong in the Lord. Happy Anniversary Mr. Terry.